Family Facts #38

Family Facts — By on December 1, 2007 at 1:42 am

Divorce results in a drop in income causing parents to be worried, exhausted, and stressed in handling multiple roles, thereby affecting their parenting and parental control and giving rise to children’s disruptive behavior.

Source:
“Children’s Behavior Problems in Single-Parent and Married-Parent Families: Development of Predictive Model”
Hilton, Jeanne M.
Desrochers, Stephan
Journal of Divorce & Remarriage Vol. 37, Number . , 2003. Page(s) 13-34.
(HT: FamilyFacts.org)



  • jd

    I keep waiting for people like Boonton or Kevin t Keith to weigh in and say something like, “Err, om, no, actually,…it isn’t divorce, it’s the television the kids watch, or it’s the stigma attached to divorce, or the kids would have been worse if the parents hadn’t divorced, or it’s bush’s fault.”
    No, wait, that last one is probably JohnW’s take.

  • http://eclexia.wordpress.com eclexia

    Statistics have their place. However, as a single mom of four kids, not always sure how we’ll make it financially the next month, but thankful that, for two years, God has provided every day, here’s how I would restate the above “fact”:
    “Control and manipulation causes abused mothers to be worried, exhausted, and stressed in handling multiple roles, thereby affecting their parenting and giving rise to children’s disruptive behavior.”
    Being a single mom is incredibly difficult and full of uncertainties. However, unpredictable, low income cannot destroy my sanity the way that abuse and mind games were doing. I may be worried and stressed trying to provide for my children now. I’m certainly always exhausted. But, I’m more sanely able to cope with that stress and exhuastion than I was as part of a 2-parent family unit, where my mind was being messed with until I couldn’t figure out which side was up.
    I separated for safety and then my husband filed for divorce. He also arranged things so that he would never have to pay child support. Talk about a dramatic drop in income for me! Somehow God is helping me find a way to survive without much income (mainly through the help of the body of Christ), but I doubt I could have figured a way to survive without my sanity (which I was quickly losing while living with the abuse).

  • http://wondersforoyarsa.blogspot.com Wonders for Oyarsa

    So Joe, I’m eager to hear more about Huckabee…

  • Raging Bee

    eclexia makes a valid point about all this anti-divorce rhetoric: as bad as it may be, divorce cannot be thought of as an evil in and of itself; it is always either a symptom and/or a response to some other evil. Anyone who has been through even an amiable, uncontested, lawyer-free divorce can tell you it’s NEVER easy, and is not a choice taken on a whim in response to petty non-issues.

  • jd

    eclexia:
    If things were actually as you said they were, then your divorce was biblical and justified. Still, you have to agree with the point of Joe’s post, don’t you? Divorce has consequences, many of them bad. There is more and more data to support the contention that divorce has long-lasting negative effects on children well into adulthood and marriage. There will probably be negative effects from your divorce, though they would probably be overshadowed by the positive and eventually understood by your children. I can’t imagine how difficult it would be to be a single parent.
    If I were a judge, I would grant you a divorce and bless you on your way out of court. However, there are way too many people who divorce for too little provocation.
    Raging Bee
    Anyone who has been through even an amiable, uncontested, lawyer-free divorce can tell you it’s NEVER easy, and is not a choice taken on a whim in response to petty non-issues.
    Never?
    Bee Ess.

  • Raging Bee

    Still, you have to agree with the point of Joe’s post, don’t you?
    After she’s debunked the fundamental unspoken assumption that divorce can be considered in a vacuum? No, she doesn’t.
    Divorce has consequences, many of them bad.
    And maintaining unhealthy, dishonest or violent marriages also has consequences, many of them bad.
    There is more and more data to support the contention that divorce has long-lasting negative effects on children well into adulthood and marriage.
    There’s also a lot of data to support the contention that maintaining unhealthy, dishonest or violent marriages also has long-lasting negative effects on children well into adulthood and marriage.
    There will probably be negative effects from your divorce, though they would probably be overshadowed by the positive and eventually understood by your children.
    The example of her actually standing up for her own vital interests, and shaking off evil, will definitely be a good one to guide her children as they make their own lives.

  • Don P

    2 thoughts: Secular authors, writing on finance will often make the same point, that divorce is the single biggest destroyer of wealth.
    On the other hand, bringing children up in a bad marriage, with an abusive parent is not necessarily any better for them than growing up in a single-parent home.(first hand knowledge)

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